Would you have a drink with dinner in front of them?
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I don’t think so. There is a lot of risk to become addicted so I try to only use that stuff like once a week or on special occasions. But I think once you become a father, you shouldn’t ever really get hammered. I think that’s a healthy boundary to have which kids can imitate.
Ideally yes. But I will say I was quite the stoner for many years while my kids were young. Ideally I wouldn't have been. To me it made more sense to Be honest than to hide it. I think I managed to still be a good father even though I wasn't my best self. I have since let go completely finally. Just reflecting now.
I think being honest is important but what is best for your kids is to just do better. They look up to you and follow your example.