Omg crazy, I never really thought about the color of hair when dating :/ Do you think women prefer a hair color as well? Like why did that not cross my mind? Itβs crazy to imagine that a guy could βpreferβ a blond over a brunette or redhead π€―
I mean I guess everyone has their own personal preference, but why would a majority decide on blond?
When Iβm dating I always go for the same qualities and looks does play into it, but itβs definitely not based on hair color π«¨
Generally I just trust my intuition and feelings when dating (again hair color never comes into play), but obviously once Iβve decided this is potentially a good life partner, there are some βbasicβ things I look for / need in a husband.
- Intelligence
- Key Personal Traits and Habits
- Shared Values and Beliefs
- Reliability and Integrity
- Into Personal Growth
- Shared Interests
- Chemistry and Connection
I know exactly what I want so each category can be broken down into specific things I look for. I feel i have most of the qualities I look for, so IMO itβs not asking for too much:
What I Look for in a Man
1. Intelligence:
For me this is the hardest to find, someone who is not just book smart. A man should demonstrates general intelligence and quick thinking, but I need more than just thatβ¦
π§ Logical-Mathematical Intelligence:
I need a man that has the capacity to analyze problems logically e.g., good at problem solving, carry out mathematical operations, and investigate issues scientifically.
π§ Spatial Intelligence:
He should have the ability to recognize and use the patterns of wide space (like navigation) and confined areas (like solving puzzles). Basically he needs to have a good sense of direction and the ability to visualize a clear path.
π§ Linguistic intelligence:
He should be to articulate, enjoy discussions, enjoy reading, and maybe even writing.
π§ Bodily-Kinesthetic Intelligence:
A man that knows how to use his whole body or parts of his body (like the hands) to solve problems or fashion products is likely going to be very important in the future. But also these types of men also usually enjoy sports or other physical activities as well and this is also important for me.
π§ Musical Intelligence:
He does not need to compose music or play an instrument, but he should enjoy listening to and understanding music.
π§ Emotional and Interpersonal Intelligence:
He should have the capacity to understand the intentions, motivations, and desires of other people and he should work effectively with others. This is important because men with this type of intelligence and empathy are usually quite self-aware and are often times able to understand their own feelings or even my emotions during different stages of my cycle. These men are also not only good listeners, but they are able to express their thoughts and feelings openly.
π§ Linguistic Intelligence:
A man that has the ability to learn languages, and the capacity to use language to accomplish certain goals is great when traveling and also great for international relations/ business.
2. Key Personal Traits and Habits
π Practices good hygiene.
π Physically fit or actively tries to maintain good health.
π Eats a healthy and balanced diet.
π Loves and respects animals.
π Is family-oriented and values spending time with family.
π Enjoys traveling or is open to exploring new places.
π Enjoys reading (novels, articles, non-fiction, or any genre of interest).
3. Shared Values and Beliefs:
π He should be able to discusses future goals and aspirations to see if they align with mine.
π He should have a similar outlook on important issues (e.g., finances, children, spirituality/religion).
π He must be a Bitcoiner
4. Reliability and Integrity:
π« He must be trustworthy and dependable.
π« He must demonstrates honesty in words and in actions.
π« He should show consistency in his behavior and sticks to his commitments.
5. Personal Growth:
π He should show a willingness to grow, learn, and adapt (together and individually).
π He should be open to feedback and self-improvement.
6. Shared Interests:
π« He should enjoy some of the same activities and hobbies Iβm into so that we can both enjoy and do together from time to time.
π« For me shared interests like food / diet is important. I am a carnivore (I cheat and have carbs / sugar sometimes when I travel) but I donβt want to date / marry a vegan.
7. Chemistry and Connection:
For me this one comes last because, itβs just natural, either itβs there or itβs not. While pheromones and hormones play a significant role in attraction and can be an underlying factor in the chemistry, there is still a bit more to it than just wanting to take each others clothes off.
π Immediate attraction:
There should be a "spark" or an undeniable pull toward him.
π Pheromonal attraction:
Sometimes, we're drawn to someone without a clear reason, and this could be due to subconscious reactions to their pheromones. I TRUST THIS INSTINCT!
π Hormonal interplay:
Physical attraction and chemistry can be influenced by hormonal levels. For instance, some studies suggest that hormonal changes during a woman's menstrual cycle can affect her attraction to potential partners. So I need to feel attracted to them during all phases of my cycle.
π Enjoy each other's company:
Time seems to fly by when Iβm with him.
π Physical intimacy:
There should obviously be a mutual desire and comfortability with touch, ranging from holding hands to more intimate things.
π Emotional connection:
Feeling like I can be my true self around him and vice versa.
π Shared humor:
Laughing together and understanding each other's sense of humor is VERY important to me.
π Eyes light up:
When we see each other after a long day or even after a short absence, there should be a sense of joy.
π Mutual respect:
Even with the spark and passion, there should be a foundational respect for each other's boundaries, feelings, and beliefs.
While pheromones and hormones play a role in initial attraction, it's also important to remember that a lasting connection often requires a blend of both chemistry and compatibility.
Obviously finding a compatible life partner is a complex process and no one will tick every single box perfectly. It's about finding someone whose strengths complement mine and whose weaknesses I can understand and accept. It's also crucial to assess how we both grow and evolve together over TIME. Compatibility is dynamic and can change based on life experiences and personal growth.
LOL and while thinking of my list, hair color never popped up ππ€·ββοΈ
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