“Love is not an emotion; it is an act of the will.” - Ven. Fulton Sheen

Cliches like “falling in love” or “like liking someone” misplace love. They separate the intentionality that love requires and imply it’s something that happens to us instead of something we strive for. Love is not an extreme form of like. You can love and not like. That can even be a higher form of love, like mercy. That’s why no fault divorce (and divorce by its very nature) is mistaken (and I would argue, not actually possible). When one gives themself completely to someone in marriage and says “actually, never-mind, I want a divorce” then what they implicitly say is they never actually fully gave themselves over or are trying to take back something that is no longer theirs.