nostr:npub1rtlqca8r6auyaw5n5h3l5422dm4sry5dzfee4696fqe8s6qgudks7djtfs triggers the ops constantly like I do. It’s bc he is trying to teach these idiots to stop making excuses for their lives and have some personal agency. The self help coach they didn’t know they needed. Lol he gets thru to me too. Stop being a pussy!
Discussion
Something I’ve learned over the years is that being helpful comes off as hurtful and being callous comes off as caring.
People hate when you believe in them and think they can be more, because then they feel pressured to change. To endure discomfort.
People love when you treat them like low agency losers who are incapable of change, because then they can stay comfortable.
To me the latter feels like callous disregard and the former feels like loving guidance.
But somehow it’s reversed in the minds of most recipients.
brutal honesty is easy
compassionate honesty is hard
It’s just honesty. Whether its received as brutal or compassionate is in the mind of the beholder.