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It’s interesting to me that humans generally seek “meaning” in their lives once their basic needs are met.

And we do all kinds of crazy shit to that end like believe in fairytales and force life upon others.

Why do we even need meaning though? It’s just so arbitrary when you think about it.

Just as reasonable in my opinion is to abandon the quest for meaning and instead just try to enjoy life for what it is: a largely random series of experiences that can be either pleasant or unpleasant based solely upon our perception of them.

I think the latter approach requires a lot more agency and effort. Since we are fundamentally lazy though, it’s just easier for many to rely upon reptile brain instincts like reproduction or alternatives to thinking for oneself like religion to check the “but my life has meaning!” box.

A meaningless life can be pretty awesome though. And you won’t have live with the guilt and mental gymnastics required for having kids or believing in some silly God to enjoy it.

#grownostr

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David Härer 2y ago

This is quite an interesting perspective to me, since I do have the longing for meaning in life. I think viewing life as a random walk through experiences can help to not stress too much about it.

However I don't feel guilt for having a child and I also find it hard to understand reasons why one would / should feel guilt for it (given you do a decent job at parenting).

Given that pregnancy can also happen if not explicitly whished / planned for, I'd also view parenthood as part of the more or less random experiences you get in life.

I think this is a topic where I just have a very different viewpoint, but find it fascinating to read your thoughts on the matter.

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Not my name 2y ago

This is a very measured and reasonable response. Thank you Sir.

For the most part, I write stuff to work out thoughts in my own head. I certainly don’t claim to know what’s best for anyone other than myself.

If one’s goal is maximum happiness, there are likely many paths to get there. :)

Thanks again for the reply.