At which point I'll probably bail out.
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the protocol is designed to be leaky, consistency is loose so that people can do whatever they like
nobody is obliged to fulfill some empty vapid ideal of free speech by carrying your message at their cost
Think you may be projecting some issue I'm not talking about. lol.
Perhaps you may not have noticed that the progression between real spaces & virtual ones are similar, you have the wild west days when it's pretty good, then the "civilised people" invade & everything starts going downhill...
I don't think "they" are worried about this as much as some think, they'll pressure the relays holders one way or another & they'll get what they want eventually.
that's the thing, because nostr can partition we can ultimately isolate ourselves from that bullshit
but it takes a lot of extra tools, like paid relays and spam filters and all the necessary support in clients and relays to allow us to build these walls
they can have their own spammy free relays, we will move to our paid relays where spam is not tolerated and expensive to do
i am already only reading and writing to relays i've paid a subscription for
if i'm seeing your notes that is because the client is doing outbox model and/or my relays are aggregating other relay content related to their users