Be careful of playing the judge, it can be just as disempowering as playing the victim.
I prefer to believe that on some level I've chosen everything that materialises for me. It's happened for a reason & it's my job to find the value in it.
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I see your point, but I wouldn’t say I’m playing the judge necessarily.
Just advising men who do not blame, take ownership, seek continuous growth, and is someone who leads himself before trying to lead others.