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I kinda thought you might. Personally, I have issues with the entire process. I would probably automatically discard all women who have a presence on dating apps from my potential dating pool. I certainly did not meet my wife that way, and I’m glad I didn’t.

I’m curious why you think it wouldn’t make matches go down though. Women tend to reject about 80% of profiles. If both sides did this, it would seem to reduce the pool to a very small number. This would seem like a good thing, until one considers almost none of the criteria used in dating apps are indicators of success in a relationship.
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Mallory 2y ago

It’s ok if the quantity of the matches goes down if the quality of the matches is good. I’m only looking for that one. My experience of dating apps is that I get inundated with likes or matches. Get discouraged by the large amount of bad matches. Panic delete the app rather quickly. I don’t think I’ve ever kept a profile active for more than like a week and a half. I never even kissed a guy I met through an app until I met someone I dated for a few months this year. I think I first used an app in 2008.

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nobody 2y ago

I see what you’re saying, but I think the criterion for dating apps is not conducive to your desired effects. It’s just an opinion, not a fact. But apps tend to focus on very superficial qualities that don’t seem like high quality indicators of compatibility to me.

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Mallory 2y ago

Apps could focus on different criteria. What do you think are the most important things to focus on?

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nobody 2y ago

Something based on a clinically validated personality test, like Big 5, maybe Meyer-Briggs, love languages, and life goals/values.

Even then it’d probably be more miss than hit, but it would probably be better. It’d also take hours to set up your profile.