Life almost never gives you what you want in the moment you lust for it. Take Bitcoin for instance - there was a time when I only understood Bitcoin as ānumber go upā technology and just wanted to see it hit 100k.
Life didnāt give me what I wanted, but it gave me what I needed. I needed to understand fundamentals, understand money, technology, economics, and then learn patience, discipline, and conviction. It hurts a bit when youāre living it, but if you make it though, the success becomes so much greater and more fundamentally life changing than had you gotten what you originally wanted.
I have no idea what lessons are in store for you, what your goals are, or where you will end up. But I know that taking risks, putting yourself out there, and pursuing success without being overcome by a fear of failure is the formula for achieving your goals. Your dream girl, your wife, your soulmate, is out there. Godspeed!