Yep. Everyone wants moderation, but nobody wants to give moderators the kind of power and discretion that would make it worth it for them.
Why do you think forum owners put so much work into their websites and communities? I guaruntee that no amount of donations by themselves could ever buy that kind of effort from them. They are addicted and will do anything for that next power trip.
Anyone who doesn't care about leveraging community access against you as a form of control is someone who doesn't care at all about the community.