I’ll be honest and say I’ve talked about dates with friends like the date was a candidate applying for a job they weren’t qualified for. I’ve also been on a date and felt like I’m not qualified to be here, I’ll just excuse myself.
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I dated someone like that, for a while. He really liked me, but his whole circle was so Oxbridge posh that I felt like the maid crashing their parties and was like nah. The whole thing was weird.
I had a sweet girl who had overcome a lot and made a lot of progress in life say to me, on a third date, “Eh, I’ll probably fuck this up. I always fuck up the good ones.” It was really sad she thought about herself that way.
It’s sad but it’s also really good to know if a potential partner doesn’t believe they’re capable of changing their behavior patterns.
For sure. It’s amazing how people show and tell us who they are, if only we’ll listen. Admittedly, I had to fight the urge to jump into savior mode (as if). Thank god for the lessons of therapy. I was not surprised by the self-immolation that shortly followed.
Low self-esteem, yeah.
I get it.