Which is your fav?
Sounds like you're doing great. None of us get a manual. Sometimes kids do a 180° from where they were, or switch "roles" with a sibling.
I have enjoyed some great wisdom from a clinical psychologist and father of ten.
Two of my favorites are Discipline that Lasts a Lifetime, and Advice Worth Ignoring: How Tuning Out the Experts Can Make You a Better Parent. Love his sense of humor too. https://a.co/d/factv5O
Discussion
It's been a while since I've enjoyed either. Tough call. Maybe see if you like him first. Sample one of his live (albeit dated) talks. If you like his style you'll hear his voice come through even if you don't get an audio format. https://youtu.be/dKZGW1ZrVqQ