This makes no sense even within her own framing.

The reason I - as a lesbian - am married to a man is that the man used to be a woman. So basically since that person doesn't fully count as a man, I'm still a lesbian.

Do I have that right? And wouldn't that be considered transphobic?

Would it work if you were heterosexual and the male you married became a female, wouldn’t you then be a lesbian?

My brain hurts