I wanted to send a detailed reply, but that would've been a story about the stuff I've had to deal with and it would be very negative. I don't think you'd appreciate it. Let me say this, when one's 'light' (using your term) is abused for 20+ years, over one after another false accusation, you'll understand that this doesn't always hold.

This holds if people are well-intentioned, which they aren't always.