two grown adults who never met before trying to get along on a day-to-day basis is a fucking nightmare. and i'm talking about a guy i met online who is very communicative, that i'm trying to be friends with. i can't imagine what it would be like to date a woman my age. you see straight through people so you don't let them get away with any nonsense, but so do they, so it boils down to "will my fully developed complex personality get along with this other fully developed complex personality without anyone having to walk on eggshells?" and the answer is usually no. finding friends when you're young is only easy because you're not being honest with yourself and others. when you're 4, you can play with just about anyone. when you're 40, it's a lot harder.