How would one socially engineer a relay in to MY list? I use my own relay infrastructure. I agree that all implementations should be hardened (they should at least check signatures but many still don’t) but automatically connecting to relays vs adding them explicitly to a user signed list is very obviously not the same risk.

Could you point me to an efficient gossip implementation that actually saves bandwidth? I’ve monitored websocket data consumption on NDK clients and it is far worse than my own relay list.

Even if the current discussed changes aren’t breaking (debatable if we are changing where DMs should be delivered and how clients should store lists for their users and with what labels) they do require changes to implement correctly.