In my lifetime, I've experienced more of what I didn't want than what I did want. This has made me realize many important things that I would have missed if I had only experienced what I wanted.
The major turning points and changes came when I changed myself inside. Then my surroundings began to change, including my family.
I created everything, all the suffering. By not being in control of my fears, emotions and thoughts, including my actions.
Thanks to these experiences I know that I can't find the mistakes in others, but always in myself.
I am the creator of my life, no matter what happens to me. You are the creator of your life whether you know it or not.