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You get self esteem by doing things that are worthy of esteem and then telling no one.

New PR in the gym? Tell no one.

Just made a million dollars? Tell no one.

Have an amazing sex life? Tell no one.

Promotion at work? Tell no one.

Lost 50lbs? Tell no one.

People might notice some of these things or changes youโ€™ve made and thatโ€™s ok.

Donโ€™t be weird about it. If they comment say thank you and keep going.

The reason you tell no one is so that you can switch your reference point from external to internal.

Let others see the results. Donโ€™t announce them.

Anything you have that is enviable others will brag for you.

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True; however announcing them can hold you accountable and push you further than you would go by โ€œhidingโ€ your personal goals and failures.

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HODL 1y ago

I think this is useful sometimes, but often is a crutch.

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StackSatsSkiFast 1y ago

Merit to accountability. However telling others about your goals often gives a quick dopamine release that creates a false sense of accomplishment. I agree with nostr:npub1rtlqca8r6auyaw5n5h3l5422dm4sry5dzfee4696fqe8s6qgudks7djtfs do the work and say nothing, this will create true self esteem

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