Healthy boundaries are something we build for ourselves, not to put on someone else. The more we do this, the more we realize we are in control of our lives and our emotions. This is self love. Allowing in what's good for us and removing ourselves from what's not. #grownostr
Toxic and narcissistic people will manipulate you to get what they want. Much of this is devaluing and shaming you to get this done. Just because you have gone through this does not mean there's anything wrong with you, it simply means you weren't aware of it yet. You have value no matter what anyone else says or what you've gone through! #grownostr
The more we love ourselves, the less other people affect how we feel about ourselves. This isn't a magic pill or anything for us to shame ourselves into though. It's a continuous process and a practice that will continually exponentially get better over time. It's also something we all deserve!
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And all toxic people. It's not for the revenge though, it's for us to finally live a life for ourselves with ourselves. Indifference to anyone else especially toxic people is a huge part of the freedom and peace so many of us are seeking. Focus on you and your life and let the rest go. #grownostr
Disempowered is what toxic people want us to feel. They don't want us to ever discover our own power to be ok on our own. This is another reason they isolate us. We actually have all the power. It doesn't mean we need to confront them about it. Simply to recognize our own autonomy. #grownostr
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Narcissists hide and twist their words and actions in a way to make it easier for them to deny doing it if they get caught. Make no mistake though, because they still do it and will continue to. If they get caught, they immediately run away and cry victim. #grownostr
Narcissists will gaslight everyone in order to conceal the truth. There is no length they won't go to and no one they won't try to destroy to conceal the truth and keep their image. No matter how crazy this may seem to most of us, it is how they work and no one can change that. #grownostr
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After we've removed the narcissists from our lives, we must then learn how to accept and embrace the peace we have available. This isn't easy because we are used to being dysregulated. We must allow the discomfort of the peace until we can embrace and enjoy it. #grownostr
Narcissists won't let go of you or the control and power they have over you. We must break these chains to be able to live the life we want. None of us need or have to settle for what they give us. You deserve all the wonderful things in life, but you must break free to have them! #grownostr
Narcissists isolate you for control and power. It's their best trick to have continuous endless supply. The more you feel this way, the less you'll try to get out of the situation. It's not easy, but we must break free and find support. Good people are ready to help when you do! #grownostr
After all, this is how they gain and keep supply. The only time they seem to care about us is when we are giving them the supply they want. Healthy, caring people don't want to have control or power over you. Find these people and let the rest go. They don't deserve you! #grownostr
Narcissists will expect accountability for everyone else except themselves. No one including themselves will ever hold them accountable. This would allow them to show they are human, rather than the perfection they try to portray to the outside world. #grownostr
Toxic people are often good to us for a time or a reason. This doesn't mean they are good for us no matter what they've done for us. Good people will not allow you to be beholden to them. Narcissists feel they're entitled for you to be beholden to them. Know the difference. #grownostr
Narcissists don't actually give real support, but any support they ever do give is if they think what you're doing will give them more. More of your money, supply and resources. After all, they believe they are entitled to everything and you will give up everything. #grownostr
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They will tell the story that makes them look the best and gives them the most control whether they have to make part or all of it up. Nothing is off limits for them, unless you bring it up. Own your truth and hold your boundaries. This is the only way to deal with them. #grownostr
It's either to make them look good, or to put blame on someone else. Nothing is reality to them other than reflection. How they look, how everyone else makes them look and how to reflect all the blame for everything on everyone else in their life. #grownostr
It sounds confusing because it is. They often mean everything to us until we see the truth. We also mean nothing to them if we're not being the perfect supply and these are only fleeting moments. The missing piece is us learning to love ourselves. Then we can let go of emptiness. #grownostr 
A boundary for you is something they want to destroy. Not just to control you, but also dysregulate you in the process of destroying your boundaries. This puts you off balance and makes it much easier to manipulate you to whatever they want. It's all a plan for control! #grownostr
The only thing genuine is they are genuinely narcissists. They are always the best or the worst depending on the reaction they're trying to manipulate you into. They will put on a full show every time to get what they want and it's almost believable until you can see behind the mask. #grownostr 
Even when narcissists seem to get away with everything in the short term. In the long term they end up burning every relationship they have and die alone, miserable and lonely. They are perpetual victims of their own demise and it follows them through their lives. #grownostr 