When we're tired, sick or just not feeling well, it seems even more like everything has gone wrong. Or worse, like we're going backwards in our healing. This is the time to give ourselves extra grace and compassion. Our minds don't work as well when our body's are not working well and that's ok. Allow yourself time and kindness to work through it. #grownostr https://blossom.primal.net/b96c7670fecc8e8a921fddd6e74fad6e5b04bd8a3a41a661454e032f392199de.mp4

No one is truly safe around narcissists. Collateral damage is a constant around them unless you're fortunate enough to not be the target. No one is innocent in their world except for them. There's no length they won't go to to get what they want even if it destroys them in the process. #grownostr

We all avoid emotions to some extent. If we're willing to admit it to ourselves or anyone else another story. It's ok if we are doing this, but we don't want to get stuck there. We must allow and process these emotions if we want to move forward with our lives. It also makes the journey much better! #grownostr https://blossom.primal.net/0deba0f0ec1c87aa6183b8be4eda8bec2cf38227d32f147e811ea9ab72f95b90.mp4

Grief is not easy to work through and there are many layers to it. We end up feeling like we shouldn't feel the way we do, or it shouldn't feel this way or take this much time. It is a very individual experience for everyone. We get to feel the way we do and go through it in our own way and time. #grownostr https://blossom.primal.net/daafd142166c28b0fcc701855c1dac7cbe65b27c71fd42c97f345db59ce09705.mp4

I suppose the exception is they are genuinely narcissists, which is anything but genuine. This is because they have no sense of self or who they are. Everything they do is to manipulate for more of everything. There is never enough of more and it will never be enough. Opt out of their game! #grownostr

Too many times we rerun what we've done and said and question everything we did. We couldn't have made things better because we were not the only issue in the relationship. They were just trying to get us to believe we were the only problem. You can't have a healthy relationship with a toxic person! #grownostr https://blossom.primal.net/23e90a7c013f1a4d74f8396bc0d17f1f6e5a34ab4571998dbf0c6c2592f704e0.mp4

You'll be lucky to get breadcrumbs and they will manipulate you to think they are giving you everything. The reality is you will never even get close to the bare minimum. Anything they give you will be to show everyone else "how good they are". It's a lie and a deception! We don't have to participate in their illusion! #grownostr

Even when narcissists seem to get away with everything in the short term. In the long term they end up burning every relationship they have and die alone, miserable and lonely. They are perpetual victims of their own demise and it follows them through their lives. Eventually it catches up with them. #grownostr

I won't say we need to go through this, because I don't believe that. We certainly didn't deserve it either.

It's often a catalyst though for really making changes in our lives in a positive way. It can be a time of huge positive growth, if we choose this. None of it is easy and I know this. It is possible for everyone to move forward with their lives no matter where they start. #grownostr

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We've strived enough to be enough for the wrong people. Stop trying to prove your worth. The right person will see it. These people will see your value and you will always be enough for them. Your value and worth will be reciprocated. We will never get this from the wrong person no matter how hard we try. #grownostr

Narcissists will say you're punishing them when we don't do what they want. You’re not being mean. You’re saving yourself. We must hold healthy boundaries to protect ourselves. Often, with toxic people, the only boundary that's safe is no contact at least until we can build healthy boundaries. #grownostr

Narcissists feed off your reactions. The more you engage, the more they win. It doesn't matter how you engage with them, it only matters that you do. The real power is in indifference. Do everything you can to get out of the relationship and away from them. Walk away and never look back. #grownostr

Some days are hard and it just doesn’t make sense and that’s ok. What’s worse is we often beat ourselves or think we shouldn’t feel that way, which makes it harder to let go of these emotions. It usually takes time to work through it. Be kind to yourself and know you can and will get through this. #grownostr

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So many times after doing something fun and exciting that we love, we almost feel sad afterwards and sometimes do. I think this is normal after feeling the high of actually doing the thing. I also think this is something that perhaps should be talked about more. The big thing is allowing ourselves to feel however we do no matter what anyone else has to say about it. Or the way we think we should feel. And of course be kind to ourselves through the process. #grownostr https://blossom.primal.net/8898268bf770c471c1ccbc3839721b1164ea245f87566bca8adea35b44bb0b52.mp4

If you didn't see the last video talking about the Ted Fest music festival I went to, this is what I'm talking about. It was nice because I had no choice, but not be on my phone or working. It was magical and I think it's much needed for anyone who is on all the time, whether for work or not. Find a place and a time and go dark, even for a little time. We all need it! #grownostr

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Everyone has all their thoughts about what it should look like for us to move forward. Many of them don’t understand what it’s actually like to go through. Most of the time the small things we do are the big things especially in the beginning. Those are the major accomplishments of moving forward. Be kind to you no matter what anyone else says or thinks about it. #grownostr

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You don’t owe anyone access to your life. If someone is toxic, manipulative, or draining your energy, it’s okay to walk away—no guilt, no explanation. Protecting your peace isn’t selfish; it’s self-respect. Many other people will have their thoughts about all of it and that's ok. Staying true to ourselves is the most important part! #grownostr

Narcissists make you feel unworthy so they can keep you small and dependent. But the truth is, their inability to love was never about you. Healthy love exists. It’s not something you have to beg for—it’s something you deserve. We simply must find the people who can reciprocate the same love we give! #grownostr

Nothing will ever be enough for a narcissist. No matter what you give or give up, they will always want more. The only way to break this cycle is to start giving to yourself in whatever way you can. This is something they'll never do for you. It's also an essential part of healing. We must give to us! #grownostr

Went to Ted Fest this weekend and got to hang out with my brother and not use my phone, cause I had no signal. It rained and had some major wind, but then cleared up for a great night. Really cool experience and I got to watch my brother perform for a contest on stage and he rocked it! Great time and good time away from everything! #grownostr

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The shame and judgement we have about our past is what truly holds us back. The more we can allow ourselves to let go of this, the more we can move forward with our lives. We've all done things we aren't proud of, but we don't have to attach the shame and judgement to it. Learn to let it all go. #grownostr

Toxic people project on us that we are not deserving of anything. This is a complete lie and a reflection of them, not you! It doesn't mean we don't need to work for many things, but it does mean we are deserving of it. No one else gets to decide this for you. You get to decide for yourself. #grownostr

I had a unique experience today and almost ran over a rattlesnake today. First one I've ever actually seen on the trails and I've been on them for 30 years or so. A neat experience and all is well. The best part is I got a ride in, which is the most important part. #grownostr

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We often knowingly or unknowingly try to shame or judge ourselves or others into doing what we want. Although it works sometimes, it often causes resentment and it's never actually helpful in the long term. Everyone must allow themselves to do it themselves on their own terms and timeline. #grownostr

Narcissists always use at least a tiny bit of truth in their lies. This allows them to point to the truth in an attempt to reinforce their lies. Just because part of their story is true, does not make the entire thing the TRUTH. Always separate the truth from the story they tell. #grownostr

Not that narcissists really have joy, but they certainly like when everyone else is miserable. It makes them feel a little better seeing other people less happy than them. This won't change and neither will they, but you can move on with your life and you can heal. #grownostr

Narcissists don't want anyone to feel better than them. Since they are also unwilling to work to feel better, they drag everyone else down to feel worse than them. We don't need these people in our lives, they will only drag us down. Remove them from your life as much as possible. #grownostr

Too many of us lose ourselves in toxic relationships. Through the process of healing, we get to find ourselves and who we really are maybe for the first time. No amount of feeling better compares to this. It's beyond feeling better, it's knowing who we truly are. This is something we all deserve and can have for ourselves! #grownostr

When you stop allowing mistreatment, people who thrived on your silence will feel threatened. That’s a good thing. It means you’re stepping into your power. The right people will celebrate your healing. The wrong ones will try to pull you back. Keep moving forward and leave the toxic ones behind. #grownostr

It's almost impossible to accept and embrace peace in your life until you've begun healing the wounds from the past. We must allow ourselves to let go of the past to allow ourselves to step into a new future. This takes time, intention and work. We don't heal much by drifting into it on accident. #grownostr

Narcissistic relationships are literally like being injected with poison. Not only do we need to get out to stop the poison. We also need to take the time to detox the poison from our system. It takes time, support and work, but it's worth it to be healthy. Then we can build a healthy life. #grownostr