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It is a pleasure engaging in this discussion.

it’s one of the topics I thought of, I’m always asking myself how is it that my friendships are decreasing over time. So the answer I gave is the answer I found after that self-reflection.

One of the other reasons also is ego, sometimes we are too proud to discuss with our friends what is it that they did and that bothered us we expect them to understand naturally.

Because we don’t put in enough effort to maintain those friendships.

The society is also selling us constantly the idea that you can be self sufficient, that you don’t have to depend on anything or anyone even friends.

Aside from that a lot of the people we meet are not our friends, they are just people we called friends because we had common interests and circumstances, so when those interested fade away, or those circumstances change, those friendships die slowly.

(Sorry for the long answer)

I know, I was just being weird 😅

Jokes aside, I think there are a lot of laptops that work with Ubuntu OOTB 😅

Replying to Avatar Lyn Alden

I've had a similar outcome as mandrik, but with a somewhat different context. It's something I still think about a lot.

When I was an engineer/manager, I worked in person, and had a great social group there. After I left it, I became inherently remote-work based in my home office, which has a lot of advantages but also some social isolation-related challenges.

I then gradually drifted away from work-friends I knew for a decade. Between work and family, we just gradually could barely find time for a group lunch anymore. Actually it was more on their side than mine; they have longer commutes, children, etc.

And my US family is small and dispersed around the country. So aside from my husband, a lot of my social interaction is online and at events within the past few post-covid years. The big exception is the part of the year I spend in Egypt, where I am surrounded by in-person family and friends every day, but have less overall productivity (bad internet for starters, problematic time zone, plus it's also vacation time and social time).

And the most notable part of each year is when I come back to the US first to take care of things here, and my husband is still in Egypt for another month to finish taking care of things there, where I risk turning into a solo cat lady.

So that makes me really focus on genuine internet dynamics, treating people online similarly to how I treat them in real life, building real connections there, going to events to meet my "tribe" despite the travel hassle, etc.

It also has prioritized having children to me recently. I've been focusing on work, focusing on elder care, etc. Due to my starting point, I have been in the position of having to support a parent and then in-laws since my 20s, while also being a workaholic to reach the positions I've gotten to. For years I was simply too busy for anything else, but increasingly the next generation is an element of life I think about a lot.

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As you grow older, your circle of friends shrinks naturally, between your busy life, your schedule, your priorities, and how you become so selective in your relationships.

I think if you still have 2 or 3 genuine friendships in your 30s or 40s then you are very lucky.

I wonder if it ever worked out for some scammer with these kind of messages 😂