No worries. Happy to clarify.
And apologies for the harshness of the comment. I very much concede the fact that the kid in question may be adopted or the product of some other relationship that you played no part in. If so, you have my admiration and gratitude for taking care of an existing life that otherwise may not have the benefit of a loving family.
But yes, I do take issue with having children on behalf of all the products of conception that are born into this world of misery and servitude as well as the many species on this earth that will have to make way for yet another likely unnecessary human mouth to feed. There are after all, almost 8 billion of us here already.
Whether for reasons of vanity, religion, or just plain ignorance or arrogance, I have seen too many examples of this choice gone wrong to be able to simply ignore what amounts to gambling with someone elseβs life anymore.
Itβs important to note that I donβt necessarily think you are a bad person. You are likely following some sort of cultural and/or biological programming that led you to chose to have children. If you have a well thought out logical reason for doing so, I would be so unbelievably grateful if you could share it with me.
The simple fact is though, that once conceived, you have little to no control over the life you are creating. Indeed, I have cared for many children of the most well intentioned and capable of parents. Your choice to reproduce then, is at least at some level, quite irresponsible as it relies on some measure of faith as opposed to fact based reasoning.
As an example, consider that the universe doesnβt care about your hopes and dreams or whatever god you pray to protect your child when it introduces a tumor into their spine that compresses their sensory nerves and causes a short life of constant pain and agony for them. Is it the universeβs or some godβs fault? Maybe. But itβs certainly at least partially that of the parents as well. You have free will and having children is a choice. Your biological child didnβt need to exist.
I may view things differently if there was a shortage of humans and if I accepted the premise that we have some cosmic duty to breed. Given that any such beliefs cannot be proven however, I again would feel irresponsible to make a decision about someone elseβs life on that basis alone.
Anyway, whatβs done is done when it comes to your kids so this is all a moot point at best. I truly do wish them and you well. I commend you for at least recognizing that the cultural programming that western children receive in traditional schools is deeply flawed.
If you have made it this far, thank you for reading this. God knows it would be a hard pill to swallow if anything here resonates with you. For what itβs worth, I have no idea if Iβm right or wrong about any of this. Just another opinion out there in a sea of human consciousness. If Nostr isnβt good for subjecting us to opinions that we donβt like or disagree with though, is there any point to this at all?