Leadership requires sacrifice. My wife and I practice NFP, so we mutually abstain during the fertile part of her cycle when we want to avoid pregnancy.
That requires leadership on the part of the husband to consider the good of the family, and mutual sacrifice on the part of both spouses to deny their passions for a greater good.
The rest of the time, we look out for each other's satisfaction, typically having sex every other day or so.
Within marriage, spouses have a responsibility to see to each other's sexual satisfaction as much as possible.
Your view doesn't account for single men, except in the implicit assumption that they must be masturbating, watching porn, or fornicating. It's possible to be single and do none of those things.
This line of thinking undermines the human dignity of men. Claiming continence to be impossible for men puts half the human race on the level of mere animals.
It seems that sexual continence is just utterly beyond your comprehension.
You man up and deal with it, is the short answer.
The longer answer is you pray for grace and develop virtue. You need the virtue to keep sexuality in its proper place so it doesn't dominate you. Acquiring that virtue takes acts of discipline and self-denial in other areas of life, and an ongoing effort to develop properly ordered desires.
The virtuous man desires loving sex within marriage, and literally has no appetite for fornication, adultery, pornography, or masturbation. It's very difficult to get there, admittedly, because our desires start out broken and tending in the opposite direction—hence the need for grace. This kind of self-mastery is certainly possible with God's help.
This opinion suggests a pretty dim view of men. We should encourage men to master their passions, rather than be slaves to them.
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I will broadcast to many relays, don't worry.
All of this is inspired by nostr:npub1wtuh24gpuxjyvnmjwlvxzg8k0elhasagfmmgz0x8vp4ltcy8ples54e7js's observation that software engineers live and work in the realm of ideas.
Not enough value is given to the Platonic/Aristotelian notion of "forms". I think forms are actually more relevant than ever in our digital, software-driven age.
As a software engineer, I see my job as the following process:
1. Someone comes up with an idea.
2. I wrap my mind around the idea and work out how it is best represented.
3. I program computers, to embody this idea into the physical world through a machine.
The idea, here, is the "form", and programming imprints that form onto the base matter of a computer circuit. The result is some real thing we see on a computer screen, or some real activity an electronic device performs.
I'm able to see it just fine
This is so important. One of the major errors of the modern day is a sharp dualism that holds our "selves" as separate from our bodies. Christians need to emphasize that Jesus came to redeem our whole person, including our material bodies. Christianity isn't just waiting to die so God can whisk our souls away to Heaven, it is living the Kingdom of Heaven right now.
I've gotten on nostr:nprofile1qqs897t425q7rfzxfae80krpyrm8ulm7cw5yaa5p8nrkq6l4uzrslucpremhxue69uhhyetvv9ujumn0wd68ytnhd9ex2erwv46zu6ns9uq3xamnwvaz7tmsw4e8qmr9wpskwtn9wvhsz9nhwden5te0v4jx2m3wdehhxarj9ekxzmny9uv3jzrn 's relay, but I haven't figured out explicitly Christian relays yet.
I'm reading St. Bonaventure's treatise, The Journey of the Mind to God. It's pretty dense, so I'm planning to make notes as I go to understand the arguments. Would anybody be interested in seeing these notes and reflections as long-form posts?
Anyone trying to open the fridge for midnight snicky-snacks has to zap it first
What are some examples of things she's been involved in?