Grace or obedience? So far, what I hear is people with extreme double standards demanding things based on deception, manipulation and false accusations, using abuse and harassment.

There are more choices than the binary choice you're posing.

If this is supposed to be an attack, state your claims because there are more than 10y of lies, manipulation and deception.

If this is supposed to tell me smth, I need more info.

There was never anything wrong with me. The "healing" is being put in abusive situation by force and fraud˛ abuse and harassment, with no explanation by disturbed people.