Years of hearing variants of the 'Bitcoin is MySpace, MyBagCoin is Facebook' cliche, and the obvious retort has been staring me in the face:
YourBagCoin is AOL, and it's doomed to fail for the same reasons AOL did.
"Further resentment was created on the Net side by AOL's habit of advertising itself as "the Internet, and a whole lot more," further confusing where the boundary, if any, might lie...."
Re-reading Chapter 3 of Wendy Grossman's net.wars, starts off with a bang:

I've added the word 'canary' to the description field for for wss://nostr.relayer.se.
So, if for some reason, you wanted to run this command in your terminal:
curl -H 'Accept: application/nostr+json' https://nostr.relayer.se
...and check whether the word 'canary' is in the description, or if the word 'canary' was for some reason removed? You can do that now.
The real flippening is upon us: as of today my expectations are that I'll encounter more random bugs when using Twitter than any given Nostr client.
gm, I'm almost at the point where I can talk about the Eagles Super Bowl loss.
Almost.
alright that's enough for now

Finally set up my lud16 address, just gonna start zapping randos
not sure - buggy client? something going south when i upgraded my relay? need to dig more into how follows work https://iris.to/post/note1cgs2e2ym2h24epctydfugyg76yzgj3lpe8pfwn27vtucxe08lswqlzf0fm
LOST EVERYONE YOU WERE FOLLOWING? NOSTRGRAM TO THE RESCUE!
I hear losing everyone you were following has been an issue due to some buggy Nostr clients out there. NostrGram saves your bacon by restoring your previous following list in a couple of clicks. Watch the video to see how it works!
Try it out at https://nsotrgram.co/
Already in NostrGram? Refresh the page to get the update!
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eep, had a busy couple of days away from nostr and somehow lost all my follows? adding errybody back now....
I'm not syncing at present. But, er, not for lack of trying.

A semantic interpretation that I'm coming around to as I work through Clark's 'Designing an Internet': if you're not running your own autonomous system, peering with other ASs, and administering your own DNS servers *at minimum*, then it isn't reasonable to consider yourself an 'Internet user'.
Most people who think of themselves as 'Internet users' are actually *customers* of Internet users - it's the ISPs that are actually using the Internet, and their customers are getting exactly as much access to the Internet (read: Netflix, Gmail, social media) as the ISPs deem acceptable.

we may or may not be talking about this at a meetup at pubkey in a few weeks. tbd!
me: ordinals pass the bar for rough consensus and running code, you can do as you please with your sats, there are no protocol police
also me: the decline of usenet began when users figured out how to use it to store data
Question for relay users (so, everyone on nostr):
So far I've been focusing on making my relay as private as possible - Onion Hidden V3 Service, running in njal.la, top level domains registered in privacy friendly jurisdictions, etc.
What other features would you like to see in a privacy-focused relay?
💯 most relay operators are still at the "frantically googling ulimit settings to keep up with the Damus App Store flood" stage of this, it's more likely an intermittent failure of some kind.
If you're a nostr client developer looking to play around with a relay that's available as a Tor Onion v3 Hidden Service:
wss://nostr.relayer.se in clearnet is now also reachable at:
geeafhmczfy5jmfc36ud2vgfotsrdnc2vwrp2kczjka4afx42quc3qqd.onion
Didn't run into that, but my first SO hit makes me think you've a different version of g++ than the one expected: https://stackoverflow.com/questions/72771470/cmake-error-cc-error-unrecognized-command-line-option-std-c20-did-you
I went with Njalla, a privacy oriented VPS provider run by the PirateBay folks. They accept payment in Bitcoin and no KYC.