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The basic ways the government steals your money:

- If you earn it: income TAX

- If you own property: property TAX

- If you spend it: sales TAX

- If you save it: “inflation TAX”

devaluation through inflation (not a tax per se, but reduces purchasing power)

- If you invest it: capital gains TAX

- If you start a business: licensing fees “TAX”

- If you own a profitable business: corporate TAX

- If you gift it: gift TAX

- If you pass away: estate TAX

- If you travel: tourist or departure TAXes

- If you buy fuel: fuel TAX

- If you own a vehicle: vehicle registration & road TAX

- If you buy certain goods: excise TAX

(on items like alcohol, tobacco, & gasoline)

- If you use utilities: utility TAX

- If you import or export goods: customs duties and tariffs “TAX”

- If you extract natural resources: resource royalties and severance TAXes

- If you own a pet: pet licensing fees “TAX”

- If you engage in certain activities: sin TAXes

(on items or activities deemed harmful, like tobacco or gambling)

- If you buy or sell property: stamp duty or transfer TAX

- If you stay in a hotel: hotel TAX

- If you fly: airport TAXes and fees

Am I forgetting anything 🥵

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Replying to Avatar The Beave

It's not a strength everyone appreciates. (It might even be why I am divorced, since I refused to give in to my Ex's delusions...)

I never decided when I was young what I wanted. I was wishy washy and then squandered time with idiotic things like joining the army. (That was, without a doubt, the dumbest and most harmful choice I ever made.) I don't know how to reconcile the regret I feel with what I currently know I want.

Sure, it's possible to hwang kids later in life, but, that's particularly harder for women, who, quite literally bear most of that burden. I'm well out of the range of the traditional mold, as you say, so, that's not so much the issue as would be finding a woman who fits.

I don't change easily or often. I'm stubborn and thickheaded. It's useful for some things, but it's only detrimental to myself. The issue isn't external. I have determined that I have continually failed myself. Again, I have no one else to blame for that. So, I blame myself, and have for decades at this point. I'm not sure when I lost faith in myself, but I did, and I've never really gotten it back.

I was sure someone would get my hint. Many people hate are very well read. I'm happy that you got thr reference.

Allow me another pop culture quote (with a bit of paraphrase): "It's not the years, it's the miles." I am pretty beat up. I can still work, but, I have worked too long and too hard on the past, without the time and space to recover from serious injuries (some from the army, some just reckless abandonment working 7 days a week for months at a time for years on end). So, no, 40s isn't old, but, I'm past any prime I had, and it's pretty much all downhill from here. Genetics and lifestyle up to this point are not in my favor.

My stuff is not together yet, but, I do think I'm on the right path to at least break even in a year or three. Maybe you're right about that at my age.

It is absolutely a terrible task to try to find someone.

Let's see if I can keep my list short:

-protestant Christian (at least background)

-witty

-well read

-competent (generally, with a basic set of life skills and then also in at least one focused domain)

-likes cozy quiet punctuated by good meals with friends and family

-can tease and take teasing without get too mean

-would rather plant a garden to ensure the family has enough fresh, healthy food to eat

-wants to homeschool children

-wants 2+ children

-prefers cats over dogs (I'm not opposed to dogs, I just can't stand yippie, barky dogs)

-is fiscally responsible

-is not a "leaver-arounder" (like my ex and my dad, gosh, I hate picking up reaction stuff that should go where it belongs!)

-is capable of telling me off without making me feel too terrible (that's hard, I know, because I do need to be nudged at times, but I'd rather not have a nagging wife that goes off about anything and everything)

-prefers to discuss things ahead of time instead of being reactionary

-is quick to compliment instead of criticize

-would willingly live in the middle of a 5+ acres of wooded land, knowing that building a home there won't be easy work, but will be worth it

And for some other pertinent data:

Non-blonde (if stress awesome, I could make an exception, but I'm the odd duck who really doesn't like blondes, and really don't like bleaching/coloring hair)

Light eyes

Curvy > not

And maybe TMI, but, would necessarily have a higher than average libido

It's pleasant to hear you think that kindness is never wasted. I'm not sure I agree with the never part, but, in general, that's correct.

There's answers to your questions. Dunno if that helps anything, but, I am honest to a fault.

Well, I appreciate your candor and openness. Not everyone has the courage to express themselves as genuinely as you do, especially when grappling with personal pain and introspection.

Life decisions, especially ones we look back on with regret, are tough. But remember that every choice we make, even the ones we label as 'mistakes,' contribute to who we become. Perhaps the time in the army and other decisions seemed ill-advised in hindsight, but they've undoubtedly shaped aspects of your character and resilience.

Why would you say joining the military was without a doubt, the dumbest and most harmful choice you ever made? I know the military usually instills a lot of discipline.

“I don't know how to reconcile the regret I feel with what I currently know I want.” I am not an expert, but I can say for myself, I have had a very wild life yet I regret nothing, but I suppose it’s just how I look at things. I understand mistakes I’ve made and I just try not to make them again, in school we make mistakes on our home work and then we correct them - it’s just how humans learn. Try looking at your life from a different lens.

It's true that bearing children is biologically more challenging for women as they age. However, it is not impossible if you are in your 40s dating a woman that is 30 is not something uncommon. It’s actually a healthy gap in many cases because you men mature much slower for some reason 😂 so it’s kind of a perfect match when considering how mature both people are 🤷‍♀️. And then she has plenty of time because women don’t even get into menopause until around 45 - 55. Also with advances in assisted reproductive technologies, such as in vitro fertilization (IVF) and egg donation, women in their 50s and even 60s have successfully become pregnant and given birth. Obviously pregnancies in older age come with increased risks for both the mother and the baby, but my point is that it’s not something to just close the book on if you feel this strongly about it. Also there are many people who are unable to have children for whatever reasons and they just grow old and cute together💜.

Your self-awareness about your stubbornness and your own internal struggles is commendable. Self-blame is a heavy burden to bear, but remember, while accountability is important, perpetually blaming oneself can be corrosive. It’s essential to find a balance between acknowledging our missteps and showing ourselves compassion. You must be able to fully love yourself before you can offer love to a woman, you need to know how to love yourself in order to show her real love. How you treat yourself sets the tone for how others will treat you. When you love, respect, and value yourself, others will naturally reflect that same admiration and care. Trust me, including a potential future partner, they will mirror this respect back to you.

Re “I don't change easily or often. I'm stubborn and thickheaded.” If you want to change something you will. So if you meet a woman and she asks you to eat healthier so that you have a better chance at creating a healthy baby or just so that you can live longer together, if you share the same goals you will make the change with joy and excitement!

What do you think you need to change, but feel you are too “thickheaded” to change for?

Yeah, #nostr is a super cool place with many interesting, funny, smart, and very well read people. I got a smile out of your pop culture references! Though your body may bear the brunt of life's challenges, the spirit and intellect within you has remained sharp.

But I’m sorry you have had serious injuries 🥵🙏 I’m not sure what they are, but I know being in the army is not something easy and not a career many walk away from uninjured. But yeah also working 7 days a week for months at a time for years on end can take a toll on mental and physical health for sure! 🙏 However I don’t think you are past your prime, in fact I think you just entered it, and it's definitely not all downhill from here.

What’s your lifestyle that you consider not in your favor?

Your list speaks volumes about what you're looking for in a partner. It's detailed and thoughtful, reflecting a deep understanding of your desires and I can say I know many girls even my age that would say yes to everything on your list.

It sounds like you have a very specific picture of home, family, and a life filled with meaningful connections. While the search for such a person might seem daunting TO YOU (because that’s not a hard list IMO), having clarity about what you want in a partner is half the battle. There are many out there who would resonate with your vision of life. I think this is a great start and think only around 35-45 do men start to understand what they actually want in a partner and in their home life.

Your honesty is refreshing. While it might feel like a fault at times, it's a rare trait in today's world. Life has its ebb and flow; while you're navigating a challenging ebb now, there’s always the potential for the tide to change.

I would live here

Cute lol very festive

Replying to Avatar Raymon

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lol I thought you were actually asking 😂 I didn’t know there would be a prize heheh 🎉