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Where's the microprocessoror printing press?

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#Amethyst is awesome Nostr client!

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Why Men Are Checking Out of Dating: The Modern Market’s Broken Deal

In today’s dating landscape, something’s shifted—and it’s not subtle. Men are stepping back. They’re not asking women out, they’re not chasing sex like they used to, and marriage? Forget about it. The numbers—whether it’s declining marriage rates, fewer reported sexual encounters, or a drop in traditional courtship—tell a story of disengagement. And the reason isn’t hard to pin down: men are realizing that the current dating market offers them a raw deal. Women, as the narrative goes, simply don’t bring enough to the table anymore to make it worth the effort. Here’s why.

The Cost-Benefit Equation Doesn’t Add Up

Dating has always been a transaction at its core—both sides offer something, and both sides get something. Historically, men brought provision, protection, and stability; women offered companionship, nurturing, and family-building. It wasn’t perfect, but it worked. Fast forward to 2025, and that balance is gone. Modern women, empowered by independence and cultural shifts, don’t need men for financial security or social status anymore. That’s fine—progress is progress—but what’s left on the table for men? Companionship? Sex? Emotional support? Men are finding those either come with too high a price or aren’t being offered at all.

Take sex, for instance. Hookup culture promised liberation, but it’s left men burned out. Easy access through apps like Tinder sounds great until you realize it’s a game rigged for the top 10% of guys—leaving most men swiping endlessly for crumbs. And even when they “win,” the reward is fleeting, transactional, and rarely leads to anything meaningful. Meanwhile, women hold the gatekeeper role harder than ever, with standards inflated by social media and a culture that tells them they deserve perfection. For the average guy, the effort outweighs the payoff.

Marriage: A Contract Men Can’t Afford

Then there’s marriage—or the lack of it. Men aren’t proposing anymore, and it’s not just because they’re “afraid of commitment.” Divorce rates still hover high, and the legal system often leaves men gutted—financially and emotionally—when it falls apart. Prenups get laughed off, alimony’s still a thing, and the cultural vibe screams that men are disposable post-vows. Why sign up for a deal where you risk losing half your stuff, your kids, and your peace of mind, all for a partner who might not even stick around? Women might say, “I bring love and partnership,” but men are asking, “At what cost?”

Even outside divorce, marriage doesn’t promise what it used to. The traditional perks—home-cooked meals, a stable household, a teammate in life—are less common. Many women aren’t interested in domestic roles, which is their right, but they’re not replacing it with something men value equally. Instead, men get lectures about “emotional labor” or expectations to be flawless providers and sensitive poets, while women’s contributions feel abstract or optional. The deal’s lopsided, and men are walking away.

Women’s Leverage Comes at Men’s Expense

The dating market today is a woman’s playground. Online, they’re flooded with options—dozens of likes, matches, and DMs—while men fight for a single response. In real life, cultural norms still put the burden on men to initiate, plan, and pay, even as women demand equality elsewhere. It’s a paradox: women want traditional chivalry and modern independence, but men get stuck with the worst of both worlds. They’re expected to perform like it’s 1950 while getting none of the benefits of that era.

And the stakes are higher than ever. A wrong move—a bad text, an awkward date—can land a guy canceled, shamed, or ghosted with no explanation. Women wield power in this market, but it’s power that punishes men for participating. No wonder they’re opting out.

The Retreat: Men Finding Peace Elsewhere

So what are men doing instead? They’re building lives that don’t need women. Video games, hobbies, fitness, friendships—guys are pouring energy into what rewards them without the drama. Porn’s there for the physical itch, and while it’s not ideal, it’s less hassle than chasing a date who might flake. Some are going full MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way), swearing off relationships entirely. Others just quietly disengage, focusing on careers or personal goals. The common thread? They’re done begging for a seat at a table that’s already stacked against them.

Conclusion: A Market in Need of a Reset

Men aren’t checking out because they hate women or can’t handle rejection. They’re checking out because the dating market’s a bad investment—high risk, low return. Women might have plenty to offer in theory, but in practice, it’s not what men want or need in 2025. Until the deal evens out—until women bring something tangible that matches the effort men are expected to put in—this trend won’t reverse. The numbers don’t lie: men are done playing a game they can’t win.

Good write! And I think this is intentional and not happened by the change.

gm

I changed light theme on Amethyst just to experience the feeling of light themers. Now my eyes bleed 😭

You sell bitcoin and I don't.

I'm not waiting anything, I focus on my craft and save in bitcoin.

If bitcoin works, systems will inevitably adjust for it. Economic order is foundational so it takes time and there should be no need for rushing.

Saylor is doing more harm than good nowadays when he tries to prevent others funding development and maintaining Bitcoin, he also doesn't seem to care P2P cash but instead digital gold aspect of it. He doesn't spend their bitcoin like you do.

Can you point one of the Mises or Rothbard book that is covering that selling a thing creates a more demand for it?

SBR and ETFs are fiat.

Spending and replacing doesn't create more demand or adoption.

Speculative attack is real, but it works the other way also! Giving away your bitcoin is worse for the adoption than holding it. Of course giving it away against literal fiat is like going backwards.

I see no point on simping Saylor or anybody else.

I don't believe there's any material backing the claim that selling your bitcoin is impacting the adoption to the upside. Adoption means people hodl more bitcoin, not selling it.

I've read a lot of Mises and Rothbard, they're very inspiring writers!

I've spend too much of my coins since 2014, and I regret some of my spending so much today!

Like I states earlier, I'm still spending my coins, last time I bought VPN with bitcoin not very long time ago.

You're not living Bitcoin standard if you get your paycheck in fiat 😂

I think the economics here are pretty straight forward. It all comes to the supply and demand. The more bitcoin is held while demand is growing, the more bitcoin grows in value, tempting more people to join.

On the other hand, it doesn't matter what do you sell your coins for. If you sell them you're shorting bitcoin against something else.

And don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with selling your coins for useful products/services, it just not create any incentives to anybody aquire more bitcoin.