nostr:npub1kpwlxpzkxfmuxjmzc2wp3rf9vjg0sgydmlhsnrgqr3maf59h86qqdxxzz4 they are not choices. they're circumstances that i find workarounds for.

nostr:npub1kpwlxpzkxfmuxjmzc2wp3rf9vjg0sgydmlhsnrgqr3maf59h86qqdxxzz4 people who work hard for riches just happened to have that ability. this is why i lean a little left.

nostr:npub1kpwlxpzkxfmuxjmzc2wp3rf9vjg0sgydmlhsnrgqr3maf59h86qqdxxzz4 i don't quite see it that way

i think that if you are wired in a way where such long term thinking is not what you're motivated for, this should not rob you of benefits, because this is just how you are, after all. you had no decision in it, so why should you have less than the rich person?

nostr:npub1kpwlxpzkxfmuxjmzc2wp3rf9vjg0sgydmlhsnrgqr3maf59h86qqdxxzz4 i don't quite see it that way

i think that if you are wired in a way where such long term thinking is not what you're motivated for, this should not rob you of benefits, because this is just how you are, after all. you had no decision in it, so why should you not have less than the rich person?

nostr:npub1kpwlxpzkxfmuxjmzc2wp3rf9vjg0sgydmlhsnrgqr3maf59h86qqdxxzz4 i understand long term thinking on a logical level, but the motivation is lacking, so have to operate around what motivation i have, and it generally doesn't care much about tomorrow. so everything must be arranged to fit the kind of motivation i happen to possess.

nostr:npub1kpwlxpzkxfmuxjmzc2wp3rf9vjg0sgydmlhsnrgqr3maf59h86qqdxxzz4 i budget and adapt to whatever income i have. i could be very strict, but it's not pleasant for me. i want to have a nice life now, not later. later does not feel real to me until it is now.

nostr:npub1kpwlxpzkxfmuxjmzc2wp3rf9vjg0sgydmlhsnrgqr3maf59h86qqdxxzz4 based on what i've witnessed, i'm roughly here:

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nostr:npub1kpwlxpzkxfmuxjmzc2wp3rf9vjg0sgydmlhsnrgqr3maf59h86qqdxxzz4 even if this is the case, the components you describe may or may not be what got you out of there

as a rough rule

one-time investments is not where you should be saving the money.

those little things you spend on everyday is what empties your bank account all the time.

you're not gonna be rich by saving on daily expenses. i think you can spend on those.

the thing is that when you happen to have more, invest in something.

a trip to visit a good friend is also an investment. buying a new instrument to explore your musical abilities is also an investment. those last a long time, so they're an investment into your happiness. any wife who doesn't get this should shut up.

also, when you're new to audio production

i'm going to give some bad advice here, but if you care about good audio

maybe spend a bit more on the nicer monitors and have noodles for a few weeks. they'll last a long time.

i'm living on very little right now but i have VERY nice audio for everything because i lived on noodles a few years back.

also, when you're new to audio production

i'm going to give some bad advice here, but if you care about good audio

maybe spend a bit more on the nicer monitors and have noodles for a few weeks. they'll last a long time.

good audio production hits extra hard if you own a pair of HS-8 monitors

best speakers i ever owned

i'm often broke but i invested in a pair of these. i've seen them in fairly serious recording studios.

if you're recording and mixing, i'll scream like SpectreSoundStudios on YouTube when fans ask if you should get monitors

YES

JUST GET MONITORS

HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO SAY IT

good audio production hits extra hard if you own a pair of HS-8 monitors

best speakers i ever owned

i'm often broke but i invested in a pair of these. i've seen them in fairly high-end studios.

good audio production hits extra hard if you own a pair of HS-8 monitors

best speakers i ever owned

looking at how i behave naturally, i kind of switch between "who cares what they think?" mode and "am i good dog?" mode at times.

i have to learn to trust my gut instinct more

there are girls on the bus i like more than anyone on a dating site. i don't want to bother. but who knows what they feel? am i bothering? maybe they want to talk. to me? in my experience, no.

i often want to talk to girls or women i see when i'm shopping, but it's not socially appropriate.

but i'm aware that it can be attractive if these rules are broken.

"can"

so, when, then?

i have to learn to trust my gut instinct more

there are random girls on the bus i like more than anyone on a dating site. i don't want to bother. but who knows what they feel? do i know if i'm bothering? maybe they want to talk.

nostr:npub1u2lgmf594gznmr6sh3wvq49r0m83esqtgetqw3hmkzxjdg4957qqhnzpap i own a ragdoll too

autistic people walking around the Internet going "you idiot" or "actually, this is wrong"

unaware that they're making fun of people because their brains are incomplete.

nostr:npub1pdc7ckfxczfwwj3y9wxds25yf85zzl87u8dfzmypm0gwhxl4kwys5htg2v also, going back to what you said

you're missing the joke

dad laughed when i was six and said about opera singers that they don't sing

they scream

would be nice to be close friends with women but i always want to marry them when i try

failure is the new success

i kind of think my recent ex made a mistake. maybe some years later, she'll get it.

there is no use in remembering to write a shopping list when you forget about it by the time you're leaving for the grocery store

no one ever tells you how to remember that you forgot!

productivity gurus, you never tell us how to do THAT.

ah, it's "talk to to the void" time again.

when i have to talk, but not a soul on Earth really cares.

any tips for how to self-regulate after a stimulating event?

whenever i leave a social situation, the excitement i felt at being with people turns into nervous energy and restlessness that stays around for a few hours.

i don't know what to do to bring it down quicker. it's uncomfortable. i have a slight shiver. it's like having too much coffee.

🎼🔥

maybe he wants to have a fall

nostr:npub1qfvjgl0z8mupgxxa90f0zd5hg5d09t60sucf3tucjpgmh02sznfsl9et4g this renders the entire matching system pointless. it's essentially the same thing as firing all the men at all the women and then they make the final call. no need for any buttons if you pick "male"...

yes, i suppose i could have a bot, but again, unless they have Tinder Gold, they will not see my swipes right if they aren't swiping right on me.

and seeing as i have Tinder Gold, i can see that they aren't doing that.

so if i did set up a bot, all it would accomplish is to make me visible to women who have Tinder Gold. they still have to swipe right.

do you understand the logic here?

nostr:npub1qfvjgl0z8mupgxxa90f0zd5hg5d09t60sucf3tucjpgmh02sznfsl9et4g introverts come in many types you know

nostr:npub1qfvjgl0z8mupgxxa90f0zd5hg5d09t60sucf3tucjpgmh02sznfsl9et4g i could but i've noticed that i am not being swiped right. you can see every swipe right if you have Tinder Gold. now, if she has it too, which i'm sure a good number of the girls i swiped right on did, they would have also seen my swipes right, and chose to ignore them. clearly, this was not working for me.

always gotta love it when someone chooses as their first interaction with you online, to be mildly irritating. great first impression there, buddy!

parannoying - what people are when they can't shut up about their conspiracy theories

Judging vs Perceiving/Prospecting types in the MBTI system

in the Big Five system that psychologists use, the Conscientiousness trait is essentially the same thing - do you lean toward dutifulness or spontaneity?

in the Dungeons & Dragons alignment system, there is Chaotic vs Lawful, which is similar.

in Buddhism, much time is spent on seeking deeper meaning and dropping attachments to things.

but isn't the need for meaning also an attachment?

anybody ever have the experience that being merely around a certain person just calms you down?