> ᴀɴᴅ ɢᴇᴛ ᴡᴀʀɴɪɴɢꜱ ꜰʀᴏᴍ ᴊᴜᴍʙʟᴇ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴛᴏᴏ ᴍᴀɴʏ ʀᴇʟᴀʏꜱ
Just ignore it, you can have as many relays as you want, I don't know why it's suggested in the NIP to have less than 6.
> *ᴀᴅᴅɪɴɢ* ᴍʏ ʀᴇʟᴀʏ ᴛᴏ ʜɪꜱ ʟɪꜱᴛ ᴀꜱ "ᴄᴇɴᴛʀᴀʟɪᴢɪɴɢ" ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ᴏʙᴠɪᴏᴜꜱʟʏ, ᴛʜᴀᴛ'ꜱ ᴛʜᴇ ᴏᴘᴘᴏꜱɪᴛᴇ
Why? you asking him to publish his events to a relay in your list, this isn't decentralization if I have to write to relays of people I know. Each person writes to whatever relay they want, and you (as a follower) have to listen to those relays and fetch their events.
To clarify, the client can connect to any relay without needing you to add it. The basis of Nostr's decentralization is its multiple relays. When the client forces you to use a specific set of relays, this isn't decentralization; the client has to connect to the relays of those you follow to fetch their events.
The client can also send to any relay, and must send the event to your read relays if the event mentioned you.
What client you are using? so I can report this issue.