What kind of details might be helpful?
Discussion
What clients you're using and where to install them.
Which relay implementations you're referring to (and links to their source).
Any relay configurations that allow any of the aforementioned affordances.
Etc...
Basically what you would do if you had to get back to this setup from a clean slate.
In brief
Relays:
https://github.com/dtonon/chronicle
https://github.com/bitvora/wot-relay
Clients:
https://github.com/mikedilger/gossip
https://github.com/coracle-social/coracle/
https://github.com/dluvian/voyage
https://github.com/vitorpamplona/amethyst
The configuration should be fairly obvious, but I will eventually do a long format.