That's a lot of words to say you've never dated before. To conditionalize women like the electrons of an atom; this is their behavior and how they respond, as if forgetting we're all individuals with personal hopes and aspirations.
Maybe the women you've met behave this way, which says a lot more about the culture you grew up in, or the algorithms you're exposed to. It could also speak on the types of women you choose to engage with, or simply the ones desperate enough to engage with you.
I hope you live long enough to escape the bubble you've made for yourself.