You have influence where you have rapport with others. Anyone who just shows up pretending to have rapport where they don’t will come across annoying and it will be a turn off to many people. This is the reality any “influencer” is going to face on #nostr. Nobody knows you, and most people won’t care until they do. So, put in the work and let others see who you are, and get to know them. Build rapport. Build a reputation. It’s your true private key.