I don't ask for loyalty but I try to impose it by example.
Discussion
why not both?
I offer loyalty because this is how I was raised. If I need to ask for it, something feels wrong. It's like asking your wife not to cheat. Do you need to?
Nah. Everyone will be judged. How they treat me only affects THEIR judgement, not mine. I only worry about staying atop my own high horse, which is difficult but growing easier regularly, as society lowers the bar almost daily.
I only guide myself by what kind of husband and father I will be remembered as.