many stop having sex after marriage đ
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But a marriage contract is typically sealed by consummation, so there's something inherently sexual about it.
Most people consummate before marriage. These rules are all arbitrary. People do what they want. People have families and care for each other without a marriage contract.
We each have to choose the sort of environment we want to live in and I choose a better, more-married place than we have now, not a worse, more-ghetto one.
What you claim to be âbetterâ is just your opinion. Itâs what you think is better for you. You have not proven it to be factually better and itâs unlikely that anyone can. Some people would disagree with you that this society is better. There are ancient tribes that openly reproduced together and believed that all the children belonged to everyone. People didnât kill each other for sleeping with women they liked because they didnât view any single woman as their property. They raised the children together as a community. It worked for them. Do I think itâs âbetter?â No I donât. I wouldnât live in a community like that. But thatâs my opinion and I have no right to enforce my opinions on what I think is better upon others.
You can't consumate a contract that doesn't exist.
It doesnât have to physically exist. A verbal contract is fine: âI love you forever.â âI will only be with you.â âI want to be exclusive with you.â
You say they are consummating before marriage (which is illogical) and then claim they are consummating after marriage (which was my argument).
A marriage contract is generally sealed by sexual intercourse conducive to procreation, which makes it different from other contracts.
You can't accidentally get knocked up opening a bank account online or getting a car loan.
Im saying these things are arbitrary. Some people get married without the intention of procreating.
couples who wait til marriage tend to have significantly better sex lives
Evidence?
several studies have been done, however this is the first result from the google machine:
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/12/101222112102.htm
This doesnât necessarily prove that waiting for marriage makes sex better. Delaying sex makes people value it more. This is just human nature. The longer and more difficult it is to earn something, the more we value it. Getting a car for free and working your ass off to buy one 6 months later are two completely different experiences.
right. i did say it makes for better "sex lives" anf not necessarily better sex. It would be difficult to scientifically rate something so subjective, but i guess I was specufically focusing on quantity, which is actually measurable.
Oh I know Iâm just saying itâs not the marriage that makes it a better sex life but the delay of sex. If two people agreed not to have sex until they were ready to commit for life and move in together, their sex life wouldnât be any worse than a couple that got a government approved piece of paper saying theyâre married. If anything Iâd argue the former couple would have a better sex life because both individuals donât feel any compulsion to remain in the relationship. They are choosing to be with that person every day because it is genuinely what they want. Itâs a much better feeling knowing that your partner can leave you but chooses to be with you than knowing your partner may leave you if it werenât for this contract.
This is why abstinence before marriage is important. That way abstinence after marriage isn't such a shock.