Yeah, but I can't fix outbox if I don't know what's wrong with it, you didn't answer my question
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it isn't contacting my relay even though it's in the relay list - the only entry even
it looks like the relay list in coracle still works by the old relay lists and not NIP-65 in/outbox lists, to me, that's why i said it
it only worked well when i ran an instance and locked it to my relay
the NIP-42 worked better in the custom instance situation too, like sometimes as quick as 10 seconds or less to auth