Wife just walks in and said we need to clean the kitchen before going to bed, and I told her she needs to clean up when she is done making herself food, and now she is mad at me.
Discussion
I've noticed that when wives/gf want to get something they will always refer to the project as "we" or "let's". Ex "we need to clean" when in reality it means "I want you to clean".
I always redirect the statement to say "you want me to clean?" And let them know there is no "we" or "lets" involved. Makes them be direct about it. Then when they ask politely/directly "hey badsamm can you clean?" I'm usually much happier to do it.
Alternatively I will get overly enthusiastic about it and make sure they do it with me. "You said we should mow the lawn; you're coming outside with me"