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So I started out ignorant and buying kyc, eventually i learned better and started buying in small chunks on robosats. Bisq was a bit too complicated for this hobbit and I've never had issues with robosats,so i continued that way. It requires a lock up fee to get started so maybe move some of your sats you get on here to a wallet you can transact with via lightning like aqua wallet. Robosats has a sort of multisig that ensures both parties are getting what was agreed upon before the funds are allocated. I believe they recently updated and allow you to run your own robosats server. Regarding Monero, I've only yet discovered Trocador as a means of swapping lightning for monero, i havent ventured much into more direct nonkyc options but im sure they exist.