I agree with this to an extent, but the problem you come up against is that children ARE influenced by the world and the wisdom you have gained about it is not something that can be told. It must be learned. And often the way a sovereign person learns is by making errors. If you endeavor too much to preemptively correct for errors, you will either foment rebellion or have a person who does the “correct” thing out of fear and is lost.

What you ultimately want is to raise a girl who can sense-make for herself, no matter what idiocy society is pushing, can course-correct for herself and choose the right path for herself.

This requires a firm hand sometimes but also non-attachment and patience other times. It is a hard needle to thread in the age of social media (my 13 YO does not have a phone but some of her friends do.) We are the strictest parents at the school, simultaneously too strict and not strict enough.

I can see clearly so many possible pitfalls, yet in the end we have no choice but to set an example and trust them. If we have raised them to be too weak they will have a lot of unnecessary suffering. But if they are strong, they will figure it out. To some extent it is out of your hands. I truly only want what is best for her, whether that is as a wife with four kids in her 20s or finding a meaningful vocation before settling down later. I truly believe almost everyone will live a far more fulfilling life by having children, and society lies by suggesting otherwise. But lshe must find her own way.