Do not raise you daughter to be fully formed from the world and encumbered with lifelong commitments to higher education, debt, career, travel, etc...
Do not raise you daughter to immediately "spend" her value by entering into the attention economy, broadcasting herself for followers and flings.
Raise your daughter to love the home, your mother, to become proficient, strong, and smart in all those things a wife and mother are needed to do.
Then she will attract a good man.
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This is a very hard thing to do in this world
Very.
I agree with this to an extent, but the problem you come up against is that children ARE influenced by the world and the wisdom you have gained about it is not something that can be told. It must be learned. And often the way a sovereign person learns is by making errors. If you endeavor too much to preemptively correct for errors, you will either foment rebellion or have a person who does the “correct” thing out of fear and is lost.
What you ultimately want is to raise a girl who can sense-make for herself, no matter what idiocy society is pushing, can course-correct for herself and choose the right path for herself.
This requires a firm hand sometimes but also non-attachment and patience other times. It is a hard needle to thread in the age of social media (my 13 YO does not have a phone but some of her friends do.) We are the strictest parents at the school, simultaneously too strict and not strict enough.
I can see clearly so many possible pitfalls, yet in the end we have no choice but to set an example and trust them. If we have raised them to be too weak they will have a lot of unnecessary suffering. But if they are strong, they will figure it out. To some extent it is out of your hands. I truly only want what is best for her, whether that is as a wife with four kids in her 20s or finding a meaningful vocation before settling down later. I truly believe almost everyone will live a far more fulfilling life by having children, and society lies by suggesting otherwise. But lshe must find her own way.
That's for sure
The reason so many men between the boomers and zoomers, of which I am apart, went abroad to pluck maidens from Asia (pictured: Rena Tanaka of Japan) and other countries, is:
1. Outside of the US/West, it is still possible to find families who were father-led with stay at home moms who were not humiliated and shamed by cultural engineering. Japan, LatAm, etc, etc. Women there still have an ounce of modesty, not wanting to shame their house. They still have a cherished view of family and continue to be family-centric after their upbringing. They are completely secure and content to have their own family.
2. Parents in the US have completely failed to protect their daughters from the ails of modern western culture. To put it nicely, girls growing up in the US today expect lots of pleasure/fun, attention, career success, independence, and nothing to do with what their mothers and grandmothers did. They are ashamed of them. The mothers have been vanished and the girls have been turned into high bandwidth whores. Modesty is like a cage to these girls. Men are like evil patriarchs and they must defend themselves by becoming strong and immune to the shackles of family life.
3. The swing towards populism, where young men revolt from the past to restablish bonds with their heritage, values, and faith, has only just begun. If you pay attention, you'll notice that a growing cohort of girls are adapting and pivoting from the previous momentum. Men are leaning into the small worlds of timeless value, and rejecting girls who have made themselves of the world.
It's early, but I think my kids will have a better time with family formation, so long as I create an environment that lends itself to such pursuits and insulates them from the other, failed of theydel.
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And then her friends and teachers will tell her she's a bad feminist unless she castrates a man with a broken whiskey bottle in a church parking lot.
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