Okay, but #Nostrrr says I have it set like this, which reflects what I set in #Nostrudel with the in/outbox and that's different on the #Metadata page.

I think I created https://metadata.nostr.com before the inbox / outbox terminology was in use. Its better language than read / write.
putting relays under 2 separate headings creates repetition
Okay, but #Nostrrr says I have it set like this, which reflects what I set in #Nostrudel with the in/outbox and that's different on the #Metadata page.

The screenshot is cut off on the https://metadata.nostr.com page. Are you saying the read / write settings are different or UI is different?