How do you discover the relay then?
Don't say "over nostr" because it's not that simple.
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If you’re seeing hints you are somehow already connected to some relays so you could query the kind 0 of the relays lr You could use some kind of seeding like what I propose on nostr:npub1pages5yhmncmmfxuza9f9fx68fju0nxnewtlffzrapsufax5mv0sznuw9d ‘ website which is not perfectly decentralized but it’s much more resistant than using domains to find relays
Need to mull over that before I rebute, but I feel like DNS has a good level of resistance to censorship. With so many parts and participants making up the DNS records, for one, you can't just take it all down very easily.
Also there is a quorum at the top of the DNS heirarchy which is somewhat helpful.