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AnnSofiNovelist 8mo ago

Tip for asking someone out on a date:

Ask them on a coffee date, using the word DATE. Be casual about it.

"Would you like to go on a coffee date with me sometime?"

"Sometime" being another key, as it removes any conflict they might have if you ask them for a specific time, and they already have plans.

If they say yes, you can either ask if they are free a specific time, or ask what times might be good for them, allowing you to them pick one of the times that works for both of you.

At the end of the date, let them know if you want to keep seeing them or if you had a good time but aren't interested in continuing on more dates.

You don't need to pick a date right then, but let them know your intentions.

This shows leadership and vulnerability, it removes uncertainty and avoids playing games.

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DasFrettchen 8mo ago

Where were you when I was single, I could've use some good advice back in the day. I made so many mistakes and lost opportunities because of ignorance and lack of competence on simple things like these.

Fortunately I read all the books and all the articles to get to a semi-functional man 😀, my wife appreciate the effort.

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AnnSofiNovelist 8mo ago

I took most of this from what my husband told someone today, with an added part of my thoughts.

I'm sure your wife appreciates you not knowing better before her, so she could be the one to get you.

At least that's how I feel whenever my husband shared a thought about "if I knew then what I know now", even about bitcoin, I'm like... "well, I'm glad you didn't so you ended up finding me, and I could take you to the middle of nowhere Sweden so you could fall into the bitcoin rabbit hole and we can be on this journey together 😇"

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DasFrettchen 8mo ago

Absolutely, I wouldn't change anything about my past just because it brought me here. If I did, my kids would not look like they do and I might even risk not having them in the first place.

But it is fun to speculate on the "What if's?"

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AnnSofiNovelist 8mo ago

Do you have one set of twins or do you have more kids too? I'm guessing your profile pic is you proudly showing them off 😎💪

Yes, the, "what if nothing changed except I had mined bitcoin when it first came out and not spent any of it", sounds like a great idea!

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DasFrettchen 8mo ago

Hahaha no they are not twins, there is a 5yo and a 3yo. That profile pic was stolen from the internet years ago but represents exactly what I try to convey about myself.

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AnnSofiNovelist 8mo ago

Ah I see. Those are fun ages. They're little but also learning to be big. And even though you've already had a 3 year old before, I bet it's still a lot of new because it's a totally different 3 year old.

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DasFrettchen 8mo ago

Not only different but opposite in character, taste and personality. We as parents are also not the same and at the family level we are completely different (meaning the 3yo was born to a family of 3 already, whilst the 5yo was born as an only child).

It is an adventure for sure.