We're stuck in a mental model centered around those wanting to see everything from everybody we follow, which results in all those connections. I think we need to explore other ways of using relays. I want the option to select one relay for my Bitcoin stuff, one for my human rights group, and "visit" each one. One connection to one relay... it's fine if I miss posts to other relays. I have no interest in crochet, so I don't need to make a connection and download posts from nostr.crochet just because one person I'm following posted there one time.