nostr:npub16amvkqtxxxsqk6a5s7f4w3guzrjejw69zy8hnwe6ug6gkcn222ks8wscuf But you always have a choice.
nostr:npub1cmgqvz7xr07euwkum3mjghjqcu4d3k2fcyf6g4uwwe5ggnd6fetq0wrzd2 it can be situational no?
If some (to use an American example) MAGA nazi engages me it's unwelcome.
"Kind" - and maybe there are language issues here to explore - can imply acceptance.
One can be aloof and still not unkind, I suppose I strive for that.
Discussion
nostr:npub1cmgqvz7xr07euwkum3mjghjqcu4d3k2fcyf6g4uwwe5ggnd6fetq0wrzd2 nostr:npub16amvkqtxxxsqk6a5s7f4w3guzrjejw69zy8hnwe6ug6gkcn222ks8wscuf Yes.
The actual problem appears when somebody says something hurtful in a 'kind' way, somebody else gets triggered by that - and everybody piles on the person being hurt because they dared express their hurt in a less-than-ideal way. Meanwhile, the original jerk just whistles on, their bad behaviour unchallenged.
IMHO 'be kind' works as the default setting, but you should be very careful before calling anyone out on breaking that rule. Always look at the whole picture.