nostr:npub1cmgqvz7xr07euwkum3mjghjqcu4d3k2fcyf6g4uwwe5ggnd6fetq0wrzd2 it can be situational no?
If some (to use an American example) MAGA nazi engages me it's unwelcome.
"Kind" - and maybe there are language issues here to explore - can imply acceptance.
One can be aloof and still not unkind, I suppose I strive for that.