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I have a question about friendship đź«‚

Since i think #nostr is a place where a lot of intelligent people are right now, i think it’s the perfect place to ask this.

I have often heard about a phenomenon that intelligent people seem to have less friends or less social interaction. That is also what i can observe in my own life. I don’t want to say that i am more intelligent than other people, but i find that the things i want to talk about often do not resonate with others or they treat it much more on the surface than i do. So i really struggle to make deep connections. Most if not all of my few friendships are very superficial.

So my question is, do you experience similar things? 🤔
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Justin_Tokyo 2y ago

I would say that friends and acquaintances tend to change as you evolve and hold different views of the world.

As an outgoing person, I used to have a lot of friends but now, I’m more focused on my family and building things than socializing.

Progress over perfection.

Some people might be stuck with an idea of “you” that doesn’t fit with who you’ve become.

Also, I might getting older (definitely) and wiser (hopefully)…lol.

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Noerms 2y ago

I also have my focus on my family but sometimes i think not putting all you eggs in one basket should also be applied to social life. So much ppl get divorced. Families break everyday. I experienced it myself. It might sound a little selfish and negative but i don’t want to be alone if that happens again to me …

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Justin_Tokyo 2y ago

I understand your concern.

My point was not about having no friends, just highlighting the fact that they might change overtime.

Also, in regards to what you wrote at the end, we could argue that the best way is making sure that it doesn’t happen to you again.

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Noerms 2y ago

You never can be sure mate. Unfortunately. I don’t want to sound depressing, but i think it is healthy to accept the reality that every relationship can break. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t care! The opposite is true: if you realize that, you can value your relationships even more and enjoy them to the fullest 🫂💜