I’m convinced about 60% of men and women who have kids in this country are not fit to be parents. I’m not a judgmental person but if there’s one thing I’ll judge till the day I die, it’s parenting.
With that being said, I’m going to have/adopt like ten of my own and do it right.
Literally the only test I had as a new parent was “did you install the car seat correctly” then they let me walk out with mine.
Pretty much anyone can have kids raising thems a different story
I don't disagree, but I think one's perspective changes once they have kids. A lot of what parents do, makes a lot more sense when you have fledglings of your own. Sometimes it's just about surviving the moment.
I work in education, with an endless number of disturbed children and I can say with certainty that their parents are at fault. Having been in this field and interacting with children all day, despite not having my own, gives me valuable insights about the effects of parenting on a child’s psyche, behavior, development, and quality of life.
My aforementioned stance took a lot of time to develop and I’m firm in it. I think many people would be better off going to therapy instead of bringing innocent lives into this world and making them suffer, and then subsequently making others suffer through their children’s disturbances.
I too work in education and I don’t disagree. 60% is a big number and I wasn’t questioning your expertise, or what can obviously be observed to be abuse or neglect. I was more referring to the little things we do as parents, that we all as parents do sometimes to “survive” hard or difficult moments. I’m not proud of some the things I’ve done or said, but when deciding between two bad things, I’ve had to choose the lesser of two evils. Before kids, I would have watched a parent and said to myself, I will never do that. He’s not fit to be a dad. Now, with some years of experience, four kids later, 15 years of teaching, some parents get a pass for some things because I have a different perspective.
Oh, you’re absolutely right. I think parenting is the most difficult and simultaneously rewarding thing in the world. Anything *that* worthwhile will be challenging and I have empathy towards parents who do their best. I’m sure my perspective will be substantially different when I have my own kiddos.
Good to connect with another educator :)
A cheap phone with YouTube videos instead of paying for daycare makes for an ideal choice if living in poverty. Though, depending on how you analyze it, may not be the lesser evil.
