I used to run a matrix server and riot (now Element) frontend for my friends and family. prior to that it was xmpp.
#nostr isn’t perfect but it’s replaced matrix for me. and the simplicity of the protocol makes it easy to customize and extend, so I suspect it has staying power.
Do you know any guides for running a private relay just for friends or family? I think there is a big opportunity to replace a lot of apps if it is easy enough.
I don’t know of any guides targeted at this use case.
my solution relies on whitelisting pubkeys at the relay, so only allowed users can read/write. afaik most OSS relays support this to some extent. then it’s just a matter of running the relay somewhere accessible, whether it be a VPS provider in the cloud or something self hosted like Umbrel
