Never been IN love. Sorry, but I can't really give you any kind of valid perspective on that aspect of your post. But, I've been through plenty of betrayals. Plenty! Most of which were caused by family members. Betrayal, from my experience, teaches us to recognize who is a genuine friend or loved one. The trauma that we experience from betrayal teaches us how important and valuable it is to have a high level of independence, as well as how crucial it is to possess the capacity of being able to survive and support yourself on your own. Zero codependence. Trauma should never be permanent and is more of a learning experience in the sense that it helps us realize how mentally strong we can be and how much willpower and ambition we have as an individual.