I wanted to #AskNostr: how do you deal with friends and family with diametrically opposed views to your own? I don’t mean on minor stuff, I mean to core parts of your world view.
Do you break off contact? Avoid the topic? Actively discuss? No wrong answers, and certainly no judgement from me.
I’ve been much more public about my political and economic views recently, so this is beginning to pop up for me more than it has in the past.
Limited interaction. Very limited interaction.
The only view I've found diametrically opposed enough to end friendships over is people not caring about Digit, but all my friends turned out to not really care about Digit after I met Digit, so I have ended all my friendships over everyone being diametrically opposed to my most important view(s)
I love them and have a great relationship with them even if we think very differently about politics. I usually avoid the topic but if they insist I don't hold back and speak my mind, try to listen to them and most of the time agree to disagree. For me family/friendship is above politics and for them too.
I share all of my views openly. No one has refuted anything I said.
We see a lot less of them than we used to. Also, getting more and more awkward as a lot of my positions are being proven right …
Family members must accept your vision of the world. Like you have to accept theirs. You have to explain to them your motivations and your studies and try to make them understand the reason for these beliefs of yours. But there must always be mutual respect for other people's ideas. Especially those of your family. It's not easy. I know it very well. But that's how it is 🤷♂️😉🫶
Actually that mutual respect part is the most salient for me. I know plenty of friends and family write off my “freedom” as simply being greedy and selfish. And likewise when I hear them spouting off on economics, all I hear is “I’m a thief and I feel great about stealing from all productive people around me.” How do you nap mutual respect, or even just your own respect, in that setup?
Take out the judgement, we didn't all get to where we are now at the same time nor on the same path - keep looking at yourself first, blinders are notoriously hard to see in yourself...
Keep it about the ideas and not the people and things can be fine....
